Dear Reader ,
Both my parents had passed away by the time I was 29.
It took me three years after that to let myself get therapy.
Not because I didn’t need it.
Because I didn’t want my wedding to be about them not being there.
I told myself I was fine. I told myself I could handle it.
I had built an identity around being strong. Around not needing help.
And somewhere along the way, getting support started to mean something was wrong with me.
I did the same thing in my career.
I sat in discontent for over a decade before hiring a career coach.
It did not shift until life forced it.
A premature birth.
And not getting a promotion I had earned.
Only then did I let myself be really supported.
Looking back, the pattern is obvious. I was not waiting for the right time.
I was waiting until I could not hold it all alone anymore.
Since then, I have invested multiple thousands of dollars in coaching.
Not because I am not capable. It’s because I want to keep growing.
And there are people who can see what I cannot see and hold me steady in the exact moments I would normally retreat.
Because growth sounds exciting until you are in it.
Until things feel uncertain.
Out of control.
Exposing.
That is where most people stop.
Even me. Two years ago, I invested in a $10,000 speaking mastermind.
I had everything I needed.
Frameworks. Strategy. Structure.
And still, when it was time to actually put myself out there my system froze.
Not because I did not know what to do. Because I did not feel safe doing it.
It was not until I stepped into a different kind of support a year later, one that helped me take what I knew and actually apply it in real time, thats when things started to move.
Where I could practice get feedback unpack what came up and go again.
That is what changed things.
It is also why I care so deeply about coaching.
I even teach a coaching course at a School of Psychology.
Therapy and coaching both create real value. Many of my clients do both.
Therapy often helps you understand yourself, process your past, and make sense of what you have been carrying.
Coaching is different.
It is about moving forward.
Making decisions.
Creating change in real time.
And that can feel even more confronting.
Because you are not just understanding yourself you are being asked to show up differently.
To act.
To choose.
To stay with yourself when things feel uncertain.
When your value is tied to being low maintenance or not needing much this level of support can feel unnecessary.
Even self indulgent.
But it is not.
It is what allows you to move before life forces you to.
Many of my clients tell me the work we do feels therapeutic.
And it can be.
But what we are doing is building the ability to trust yourself and move especially in the moments where you would normally hesitate.
And I truly believe that’s why I’m where I am with my speaking.
I have nine speaking engagements lined up this spring, a few will be open to the public which I’ll be sharing soon.
The truth is that you don’t need support because you are failing.
You need support because you are growing into something that requires a different version of you to show up.
And the real question is not
Do I need help?
It’s how much longer am I willing to stay here waiting until I have no other choice?
If you haven’t watched the workshop yet, you can still catch it here till midnight tonight.
WATCH HERE
And if you did watch and felt something shift, don’t leave it there.
This is exactly the work I do with my clients helping you move on what you already know instead of circling it.
If you’re ready for that kind of support, let’s connect.
Here’s to growing
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