Dear Reader,
Last week, I talked about why visibility feels dangerous, how your body learned that staying small was the safest choice. You can read that email here.
With Thanksgiving and the holiday season here, a lot of us are about to be around the very people who taught us how to shrink in the first place.
Today, I want to share what happened after speaking at Wonder Women in Tech. I arrived at home and my brother was in town visiting.
Here’s the real thing no one likes to admit:
The hardest place to be brilliant is around the people who once taught you to shrink.
Just a day earlier, I had stood on stage sharing the fullness of my message, the expansiveness, the depth, the stories, and the grounded, practical guidance that I’ve earned through years of choosing myself.
I felt expressed.
I felt clear.
I felt proud of the woman I’ve become.
You can watch a clip of me speaking here.
And then I came home and with my brother there, I realized how far I've come.
My brother's opinions shaped so many of my early decisions.
The one who once told me pharmacy would be “good for a girl.”
The one who never really understood me, yet whose voice I followed anyway.
For years, I dimmed around him without even realizing it.
But this time was different.
He asked about the talk I’d just given: The Feminine Advantage in Leadership.
I explained it, fully, calmly, without shrinking.
And he looked at me and said, “That makes complete sense.”
He kept complimenting my work.
My lifestyle.
Where and how I live.
Who I’ve become.
It felt like a quiet miracle, not because I needed him to get it, but because I could feel how much I’ve grown beyond the version of me who used to contort herself to keep old dynamics comfortable.
Here’s what I want you to feel in your body:
Your nervous system learned to shrink from real people, real moments, real dynamics.
And your nervous system expands the same way, one safe moment at a time.
Visibility doesn’t become possible through sheer willpower.
It becomes possible when your system finally gets evidence that being seen doesn’t cost you anything anymore.
That’s the heart of the Take Back Your Power Session.
It’s not about strategy. It’s about safety, the kind that lets you speak your truth without bracing for impact.
A Black Friday Offer:
I'm not usually a big Black Friday person.
But I got a spark this week related to being a black sheep, those of us who've never quite fit the mold, who've been told we're "too much" or "too different," who've learned to dim our light to make others comfortable.
In our 60 minutes together, we’ll:
✨ Pinpoint the exact moment your power leaked
✨ Name whose voice you’re still carrying
✨ Release the old protection that’s keeping you small
✨ Create a first step your nervous system can actually support — not dread
This session is for the ones who have something to say and are tired of not being heard.
If that’s you… you’re not broken.
You’re brilliant.
You’re just protected.
And it’s time to take your power back.
Black Friday Investment: $288 (Regular price: $350)
Available now through December 5th.
Limited sessions total (I'm keeping this small and intimate because this work requires my full presence)
Ready to take your power back?
Sessions can be scheduled through December and into January. But you must book by December 5th to receive the Black Friday rate.
P.S. If you're not ready for 1:1 work but this email resonated, hit reply and let me know. I love hearing what lands for you. And if you know a fellow black sheep who needs to read this, please forward it along. Sometimes we all need permission to reclaim our light.
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